What a delightful series of words, what wonderful images are brought to mind by just thinking about the concept. How many of us have a pre-set image of how our lives are going to evolve, the way "things should be." It is nobody's fault that we have these ideas, because most of the time, the people who planted these notions, such as parents or teachers, were well intentioned.

And now let's take a look at how this wonderful concept of "the way things should be" plays itself out in our actual lives, and how much this concept is similar to, or varies dramatically from, "the way things are."

Here are some of the things we are taught that fit nicely into the category of "the way things should be:"

• Life should be fair.
• True love should be forever.
• Work should be enjoyable.
• We should always speak the truth (am particularly fond of this one!)
• Friends should never betray each other.
• Our lives should be "set" when we get married and/or have kids.
• People should judge you based upon who you are, not your ethnic background or sexual orientation.
• Our investments should only go up in value.

How many of us have lives in which these "shoulds" are prevalent? For many of us, we still give some credence to these ideas and pay them a minimum of lip service. In fact, many of the things that are taught us bear very little relationship to the reality of our actual experiences.

Therefore, I propose a new revised list of "the way things should be" that I hope you find bears some semblance to reality:

• Life often appears unfair, but ultimately things should balance out.
• Love, true or otherwise, should not have to be forever for it to be cherished.
• Work can be enjoyable or miserable, it should depend on our input and attitude.
• It would be nice if we could always speak the truth, but not everyone recognizes what the truth is, and many people are not prepared to hear it.
• Friends, like other mortals, often betray each other at some point in time, and it's not a big tragedy.
• Our lives should be appreciated for their fluidity, and there is no real value in freezing any person or situation.
• People will judge you based upon any number of things, but good friendships arise in spite of all that.
• Our investments should fluctuate just like anything with natural cycles.

What is the way things "should be" in your life?
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I am not talking about a football strategy either, although as a former quarterback in my schoolyard days, I can appreciate that as well.

I am talking about all the roadblocks we automatically inject into our daily lives by unwarranted interference in others' lives. It's time to take a good hard look at our efforts, and see whether there is any pay dirt for us or anyone else.

I thought about this topic for a while, and tried to contrast it to a position I take in my book Monergy, where I contend that responsibility to act in any life situation falls on the person with the most consciousness. I strongly suggest in the book that once your economic goals are realized and you have the ability to tap into the energy to sustain that change, that you are truly a "privileged" person. As such, it is incumbent upon you to recognize and take a stand when evil arises in your daily life, because otherwise, you become an enabler. And after all, what point is having all the money in the world if the world is an ugly place to live in.

I still believe that one needs to take a very active stand in daily life and take action when evil arises in one's "energy sphere." However, what I am talking about is the more frequent type of interference we all do in each other's lives, interference more often motivated by ego(I know better than you) than by a desire to preserve the sweetness and integrity of daily life.

More often than not, this type of ego based interference results in a negative double whammy: not only do we fail to manipulate the situation to our liking, but we also succeed in alienating the people whom we seek to "help." The lesson here is that each of us most go through ,many lessons in life ourselves at our own pace before we can move on. When we interfere because we are "wiser," and are going to help avoid painful lessons for another, we act against the universal energy, which does a much better job teaching people lessons than we could ever fathom.

If you like, practice not interfering in others lives and let me know some of the results.
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What a great word. What images this word connotes just by saying it: perfection, perfection, PERFECTION!

How many of us think that things are perfect, that our lives are perfect, that the things that happen all around us are perfect? I don't know about you, but I don't hear that word bantered around too much these days. And yet, on a certain level, EVERYTHING IS PERFECT.

The beggar in the street....perfect.
The so-called "dis-advantaged" people in the third world....perfect.
Donald Trump....perfect.
Bernie Madoff....perfect.
Even your mother-in-law....perfect.

What is so perfect about all these people? Each one is playing out the role they have been given in this lifetime....and they are doing it perfectly. And on a certain level, everyone is happy playing out these roles, contrary to the impression of those looking in and not in their skin.

Everyone has different circumstances in life, but each of us must work hard to maintain our freedom and personal integrity within the framework of our lives. Perfection once again!

So, your struggles at this moment....perfect. Take a few moments: step back and see the universe working in perfect harmony in the world around you. When you realize your interference in this miracle is not just unwarranted but is potentially destructive, your life just became a whole lot easier.

Enjoy your day!
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